Adoption through the eyes of a child --
Entering your child's world --
Twenty things your adopted child wants you to know --
"I suffered a profound loss before I was adopted. You are not responsible" --
"I need to be taught that I have special beeds arising from adoption loss, of which I need not be ashamed" --
"If I don't grieve my loss, my ability to receive love from you and others will be hindered" --
"My unresolved grief may surface in anger toward you" --
"I need your help in grieving my loss. Teach me how to get in touch with my feelings about my ddoption and then validate them" --
"Just because I don't talk about my birth family doesn't mean I don't think about them" --
"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family" --
"I need to know the truth about my conception, birth, and family history, no matter how painful the details may be" --
"I am afraid I was 'given away' by my birth mother because I was a bad baby. I need tou to help me dump my toxic shame" --
"I am afraid you will abandon me" --
"I may appear more 'whole' than I actually am. I need your help to uncover the parts of myself that I keep hidden so I can integrate all the elements of my identity" --
"I need to gain a sense of personal power" --
"Please don't say I look or act just like you. I need you to acknowledge and celebrate our differences" --
"Let me be my own person… but don't let me cut myself off from you" --
"Please respect my privacy regarding my adoption. Don't tell other people without my consent."
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